As stated in the title, my wedding is exactly one month from today and I'm feeling a ton of different emotions. I'm excited because I finally get to marry the person I love, frustrated because I don't have certain things done (ex - I still don't have shoes) and annoyed because I have people trying to tell me what I can and cannot do at my own wedding (I have a big potty mouth and I refuse to pretend like I don't, especially at my wedding and other people think I should pretend to be someone I'm not).
So yeah, I'm a bundle of various emotions and I can't wait for this to be over with. I just want the day to come, go and for Justin and I to be married and move on from all this silly wedding stuff -- Which probably sounds horrible to most of you, but I'm not your typical bride who thinks my wedding is the be-all and end-all.
Lets hope I survive this month.
I think your attitude about your wedding is exactly right on. You should be more excited about and planning for the marriage rather than your wedding, which is only one day of your life.
ReplyDeleteThank you! People have been getting on me for X, Y or Z and I just don't think those things matter and I don't understand why they think they do.
DeleteI get where you're coming from- a big part of the reason I haven't married my s.o. of almost 12 years is that I just don't want to deal with all the wedding drama- it just makes me feel weird. I can see exactly how it would be hijacked by family members. I'm also digging my heels in out of stubborn defiance towards family/friends that seem to think that because we aren't married, we don't "count" or our relationship is somehow less valid than theirs, or those who have kids. It would piss me off and sour the whole thing suddenly seeing them sing a different tune just because we have rings and a piece of paper. Maybe we will someday, but for us it's just not a priority. Whew- good luck and just take it one day at a time!
ReplyDeleteThank you. You have no idea how much reading your comment made me feel better.
DeleteI feel like weddings make people focus on the wrong things and whenever I try to express that to those people they think I'm just being a bitch.
I hope that if you guys do decide to get married one day that you do it on your terms and that no one ruins it for you.
Oh no, you're not a bitch for that. You're smart. And to me it seems like the people that don't rush into things are the ones that will last. Out of the handful of weddings my bf and I have attended since we've been together,75% of those marriages have already ended. Yet because we aren't married, nobody gets excited about our anniversaries or celebrates us in any way. We're basically invisible. We didn't get any awesome presents when we moved in together to help us build our home. We did it all on our own. We live together, pay bills, go on vacations, fight, do everything other couples do and the work and commitment is just as all-encompassing. But people have been conditioned by this huge wedding industry to see that one day as the pinnacle of their lives, the ultimate goal and pressure for perfection, especially for women. To me that is just sad. What happens after that day? A lot of people don't think about that. Geez, all the money people spend on a wedding- go on the trip of a lifetime, put a down payment on a house, do something that will last more than 1 day. It's hard anytime you go against the status quo, but yeah, hopefully it will end up being more fun than stressful for you and you'll get some cool gifts now that you're all official ;)
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